Love

When you think of your past love, you may view it as a failure.
But when you find a new love,
you view the past as a teacher.
In the game of love,
it doesnt really matter who won or who lost.
What is important is you know when to hold on and when to let go!

You know you really love someone when you want him or her to be happy,
even if his or her happiness means that you are not part of it.

Everything happens for the best.
If the person you love doesnt love you back,
dont be afraid to love someone else again,
for you will never know unless you give it a try.
You will never love a person you love unless you risk for love.

Love strikes in hurting.
If you dont get hurt, you dont learn how to love.
Love doesnt hurt all the time.

Though the hurting is still there to test you, to help you grow.
Dont find love, let love find you.
That is why it is called falling in love because you dont force yourself to fall.
You just fall.
You cannot finish a book without closing its chapters.
If you want to go on,
then you have to leave the past as you turn the pages.

Love is not destroyed by a single failure or won by a single caress.
It is a lifetime venture in which we are always
learning, discovering and growing.

The greatest irony of love is letting go when you need to hold on
and holding on when you need to let go.

We lose someone we love only when we are destined to find
someone else who can love us even more than we can love ourselves.
On falling out of love,
take some time to heal and then get back on the horse.
But dont ever make the same mistake of riding the same one that threw you the first time.

To love is to risk rejection; to live is to risk dying,
to hope is to risk failure.
But risk must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is risking nothing!

To reach for another is to risk involvement,
to expose your feelings is to expose true self.
To love is to risk not to be loved in return.
How to define love; fall but not stumble,
be constant but not too persistent,
share and never be unfair,
understand and try not to demand, hurt but never keep the pain.

Love is like a knife.
It can stab the heart or it can carve wonderful
images into the soul that always last for a lifetime.

Love is supposed to be the most wonderful feeling.
It should inspire you and give you joy and strength.
But sometimes the things that give you joy can also hurt you in the end.

Loving people means giving them the freedom that they
choose to be and where they choose to be.
Loving someone means giving him or her the freedom to find his or her way,
whether it lead towards you or away from you.

Love is a painful risk to take but the risk must be taken,
no matter how scary or painful,
for only then you will experience the fullness of humanity and that is love.

Only love can hurt your heart,
fill you with desire and tear you apart.
Only love can make you cry and only love knows why.
If you are not ready to cry,
if you are not ready to take the risk,
if you are not ready to feel the pain,
then you are not ready to fall in love.
There was a time in our lives when we became afraid to fall in love because every time we do, we get hurt, then I figured that is why it is called falling in love.

Whatever happened, dont give up! It is just a trial.
Have faith in yourself and cheer up.
When you decide to love, allow it to grow.
When you promise to love, refuse it to die!

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If you find yourself in love with someone who does not love you, be gentle with yourself.
There is nothing wrong with you.
Love just didn't choose to rest in the other person's heart.
If you find someone else in love with you and you don't love her/him,
feel honoured that love came and called at your door,
but gently refuse the gift you cannot return.
Do not take advantage, do not cause pain.

How you deal with love is how you deal with you,
and all our hearts feel the same pains and joys,
even if our lives and ways are different.

If you fall in love with another, and she falls in love with you,
and then love chooses to leave,
do not try to reclaim it or to assess blame, Let it go.
There is a reason and there is a meaning.
You will know in time.

Remember that you don't choose love. Love chooses you.
All you can really do is accept it for all its mystery when it comes into your life.
Feel the way it fills you to overflowing,
then reach out and give it away.

Give it back to the person who brought it alive in you.
Give it to others who deem it poor in spirit.
Give it to the world around you in anyway you can.

This is where many lovers go wrong.
Having been so long without love,
they understand love only as a need.
They see their hearts as empty places that will be filled by love,
and they begin to look at love as something that flows to them rather than from them.

The first blush of new love is filled to overflowing,
but as their love cools, they revert to seeing their love as need.
They cease to be someone who generates love and instead become someone who seeks love. They forget that the secret of love is that it is a gift,
and that it can be made to grow only by giving it away.

Remember this, and keep it to your heart.
Love has its own time, its own seasons, and its own reason for coming and going.
You cannot bribe it or coerce it, or reason it into saying.
You can only embrace it when it arrives and give it away when it comes to you.
But if it chooses to leave from your heart or from the heart of your lover,
there is nothing you can do and there is nothing you should do.
Love always has been and always will be a mystery.

Be glad that it came to live for a moment in your life.
Don't deny love just only you don't want to be hurt...

IF YOU KEEP YOUR HEART OPEN, IT WILL COME AGAIN

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When we meet the right person to love when we're
at the right place at the right time,that's chance.

When you meet someone you're attracted to,
that's not a choice. That's chance.

Being caught up in a moment
(and there's a lotof couples who get together because of this) isnot a choice.
That's also a chance.

The difference is what happens afterwards.
When will you take that infatuation,
that crush,that mind-blowing attraction to the next level?
That's when all sanity goes back,
you sit downand contemplate whether you want to make this
into a concrete relationship or just a fling.
If you decide to love a person,
even with his faults, that's not a chance.
That's choice.

When you choose to be with a person, no matterwhat, that's choice.

Even if you know there are many people out there
who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate,
and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same, that's choice.
Infatuation, crushes, attraction comes to us bychance.
But true love that lasts is truly a choice.
A choice that we make.

Regarding soul mates, there's a beautiful movie
quote that I believe is so true about this:
"Fate brings you together, but it's still up toyou to make it happen."
I do believe that soul mates do exist.
That there is truly someone made for you.
But it's still up to you to make the choice if you're going to do something about it or not.
We may meet our soul mates by chance,
but loving and staying with our soul mates is still a choice we have to make.

We came to the world not by finding someoneperfect to love...
BUT to learn how to love an imperfect personperfectly...

Conclusion:

it is not the matter how to find someone perfect to love,
but how to love someone imperfect perfectly .....